How To Find Her Orgasm Trigger Points
by Alex Allman
www.RevolutionarySex.com
Do you know the exact places to touch any woman (and
the exact things to DO to her) that will trigger
MASSIVE sexual pleasure in her body?
There are specific "trigger points" on every
woman's body that can bring her quickly and powerfully
to orgasm if you know how to stimulate them correctly...
I'm sure you probably know a few of them... the clitoris,
the g-spot...
Those are obviously important ones, and I'm going to
cover them in this article—but also some other ones that
are much less common. And it might surprise you to learn
that the UNCOMMON ones are USUALLY the ones that
are FAR MORE POWERFUL.
From my conversations with women during my studies
it seems like every guy
goes straight for clitoris, or the g-spot, or just
bangs away inside of her during sex...
And, of course, that can sometimes work GREAT
If she's already really turned on, or if you
are already feeling a great sense of connection,
then sometimes the most powerful and direct way to
give the woman you are with an earth-shaking orgasm
is to go straight to what you know works—whether
that's your tongue on her clitoris, your finger
on her g-spot, or just some good old-fashioned
intercourse.
And that's especially true if she's one of those
lucky women who orgasm very easily.
But women are all very different and while some
women can have an orgasm from just whispering in
her ear (yes, it's completely possible and many women
have experienced it), other women require quite a
bit more finesse to reach the finish line.
If you have built a wonderful sense of connection,
sexual trust, and have passion for each other, again,
it's going to matter a whole lot less where and how
you touch her. She's going to love it no matter
what you do. (Which is why most of my articles
focus on that part of the sexual equation).
I've already made the point that every
woman is different in the way she responds
sexually, so these trigger points are going to
work differently for every woman as well.
If you take the time to build some connection
and you know how to get her really, really
aroused, then you're going to have a LOT of
fun experimenting with every one of these.
Some of them might not be as powerful as
others depending upon the woman—but I promise,
some of them will really blow your mind with
the intensity of the reaction you might get.
Be patient and be playful, and you will find
that if you are with a woman for the first time,
she'll think she's in the arms of some sexual
master... and if you are in a long-term relationship
you can add some powerful magic back into the
time you spend in bed...
THE CLITORIS
If there's one trigger point that everyone
knows about, it's the clitoris.
It's the most sensitive place on the human
body, beating out the head of the penis (sorry,
bad pun) by a long margin (another bad pun!).
Plus, it is the most common place that a woman
will touch HERSELF if she is masturbating.
Yet so many men are clueless as to how best
to stimulate this special little spot.
Here's the big key:
Do some experimentation and PAY ATTENTION to
how she responds.
For some women direct stimulation on the head
of the clitoris is way too intense and it is can
be uncomfortable or even painful...
But other women like it very intense pressure
right on the spot...
If you read some article that said to do it
in a particular way, it was probably written by a
woman... a woman who likes it in that particular
way.
A man with some experience is going to know that
every woman responds differently and finding out the
exact way to drive her into high-gear is going to
take a couple of laps around the track.
Just remember this rule of thumb (or tongue,
or whatever)... the clitoris has rhythm.
If you, on the other hand, DON'T have rhythm, you
might end up with a very frustrated partner.
You can get her very excited... you can get her
"almost there" by messing about and drawing the alphabet
and stuff like that... and it's a great tease...
But when you are ready to give her an orgasm, you've
got find the place and the pressure that she likes, and
then find the RHYTHM that will slowly build and crest
her over the top into the land of O.
THE G-SPOT
If you know how to find the G-Spot, then you
probably have some very devoted fans among your
ex-lovers.
(If you don't—about 2 inches inside, top
wall, about the size of the quarter, feels a little
spongy when she gets excited. You're welcome).
For what it's worth, anatomically, every woman
should be able to get orgasmic pleasure from the
g-spot.
If your woman can't, you can probably "train"
her to start to enjoy it, and eventually give her
very powerful orgasms there as well (I outline
the steps in my online eBook, Revolutionary
Sex. You can get more information about it at
www.RevolutionarySex.com)
One of the interesting things about women is
that, unlike men, the types of orgasms that they
experience are very different from each other...
Or at least that's what they report—they
describe the clitoral and g-spot orgasms as both
intense, but in a different way... and some women
prefer one over the other... but most, obviously,
love them both.
THE PARA-CERVICAL RING
Some people call this the "deep spot", some call
it the "H" spot... you can call it the "Alex Spot"
if you've never tried it before...
Because whatever name you use, when you hit this
one, it can give your woman some of the most powerful
"deep body" orgasms imaginable.
Go straight back, deeper into the vagina from
the g-spot, right where you meet the cervix, you
will feel a ring of very smooth skin, surrounding
the tough little donut of the cervix body.
This area can be stimulated exactly the same
way as the g-spot (if you have long fingers), but
it is also the place where the head of your penis
presses during deep intercourse.
If you press against this point and just hold
there, some women will have a spontaneous orgasm
after a few seconds... even without any motion
at all.
NON-VAGINAL EROGENOUS ZONES
Most women, with practice, can have
orgasms through places all over their bodies...
not just the areas in and around the vagina.
The most "common" is the nipple-orgasm.
The reason this one is the most common is
simply because many women have husbands or
boyfriends that love their breasts... and so
they spend a lot of time there...
And one day the guy just really gets into it
for a long time, and he starts using his tongue
with a steady rhythm...
If he's a good lover and he is sensitive to
the changes in her body, he feels her getting
suddenly more excited, and that gets HIM more
excited... so he keeps doing what he
is doing...
And the next thing they both discover is...
The nipple orgasm.
The first time it happens, she is going to be
blown away.
It is very, very powerful... and, for most
women... very, very surprising.
What's more surprising is that it doesn't
stop with the nipples.
Women can have orgasm from the same kind of
stimulation to the nape of their neck, inside
the elbows, behind the knees, the back of the
ankle, earlobes, the bottom of the foot, and many,
many other places that I'm sure I haven't
discovered.
The important key is to find out which areas
are most sensitive to YOUR woman...
And then... experiment.
Here's a big hint:
If she's a bit ticklish in an area when she's
not aroused, try gently touching the same area
when she's in a deeply sexual state, maybe while
you are actually making love.
If she starts getting ticklish, try to get
her to relax. Amazing things just might happen
next!
THE "B" SPOT
By far, the most powerful orgasm trigger
point in a woman's body is her brain.
If you are saying to yourself, "come on now,
Alex, sure it's important to get her turned on,
but it's not really an orgasm trigger point..."
Guess again, my friend.
Women can be brought to orgasm through nothing
more than WORDS.
That's right, you can TALK HER INTO AN ORGASM.
Of course that takes some practice for both
of you, and it might not be the easiest or even
the most enjoyable way of bringing her around,
but consider this:
Most of the time, when a woman has an orgasm,
you are stimulating multiple trigger points at
the same time.
And, whether you know it or not,
every time she has orgasm, you are at least
stimulating her B-Spot along with whatever else
you are doing.
If she's not turned on in her brain, nothing
else will work. Nothing. Period. End of story.
And and it's more than just "turned on"...
there is a VERY specific, very EXACT state that
her brain must be in for her to have an orgasm...
If you are with a woman who is "pre-orgasmic"
(has never had an orgasm before), this is EXACTLY
what the problem is.
You can stimulate her other orgasm trigger
points from now until next Sunday, and nothing
will work if you can't master the subtleties of
the B-Spot.
Additionally, the extent to which you can
master her B-Spot... her mental and emotional
sexual state, will completely control how POWERFUL
her orgasms are.
In the same way that you need to figure out
how to stimulate her clitoris (rubbing it like a
magic lamp doesn't always do the trick), there is
a lot of art to getting her mind to flip all the
right switches to cause her to have an orgasm.
Here are some of the things to focus on...
1) Getting Her Turned On
A lot of guys skip.
The first time she is alone with you and the
clothing starts coming off, she has a ton of
anticipation and nervous energy that can get her
wild with excitement. So you don't really have to
worry about it too much.
But later, just because you drop your pants,
she might not just get instantly soaked with
lust.
You need to LEARN to trigger that same kind of
anticipation that gets her completely WILD with
lust.
Eventually, if you master this skill, you'll be
able to put her into this state as easily as
flipping a switch.
2) Sexual Trust
If excitement happens automatically in the
early parts of the relationship, the opposite is
true of Sexual Trust.
That's why so often a woman will feel
incredibly aroused the first time you have sex,
with her, but still not be able to have an orgasm
with you until the 3rd or 4th time you have sex.
Orgasm for a woman is an act of surrender.
Some women can do this easily and for some
women this is the most challenging part of having
an orgasm.
Think of it like this—some men can easily get
an erection under pressure—but for some men
getting an erection, say while a crowd of people
watched, would be simply impossible.
For women, not being able to surrender to an
orgasm is very, very similar to performance anxiety
for a man.
Learning exactly how to build this trust is
critical to helping pre-orgasmic women have their
first orgasm.
3) Creating A High-Level Sexual State
The orgasm does not actually happen in the
vagina... it happens in the brain.
Scientists can hook an EEG up to a woman's
brain and actually measure the stages of arousal
that lead to orgasm.
The easiest way to get that orgasmic brain-
wave going is to stimulate the nerves in the
clitoris...
But, as I said, most women can learn to have
an orgasm just from verbal command... they can
learn to "think" their way to an orgasm.
You can learn to double or even triple the
intensity of her orgasms by learning how to create
and take control of this mental state.
4) Emotional Connection
Everyone TALKS about the difference between
"having sex" and "making love."
We all know the difference. We can all FEEL
the difference...
I believe that, in general, women feel the
difference far more profoundly.
Unfortunately it is NOT as simple as just
having sex with someone that you are in love with.
Being in love is not the key to "making love."
The key is being emotionally connected DURING
the actual act of love-making.
When a woman experiences orgasm with a man
with whom she is emotionally CONNECTED... in
that moment... simultaneous with her orgasm...
She experiences something profound, spiritual,
and unlike any ordinary orgasm that she can EVER
have masturbating or with a man who can't make
that connection.
It is something unforgettable. It is 10 times
more powerful than even the most powerful orgasms
she can achieve any other way.
For a man, building that connection for her
takes more than feelings of love—it takes a
rather large dose of courage and confidence.
Okay...
So now that I've outlined all the ways in which
you can use the "B-Spot", I think it's clear that
there is a lot more to talk about...
And I hope you know that I'm not just being
coy by not going into more detail with each of
these orgasm trigger points...
It actually is more detail than I can go into
in the space of an article.
I am very confident that a lot of what I am
saying is going to make immediate and intuitive
sense to you, and that you will be able to APPLY
the ideas in this article to have INSTANT
improvement in your sexual relationship...
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